Love and dedication, or realization of your dreams, becoming who and what you want to be?
Imagine, you are a woman who is in love with a man, who lives in a little town somewhere on the other continent. And his ambition is to run his family business where he lives.
Your dream is to open... an art-gallery, for example, or to become a singer.
Moving to him, you will bear two nice monkeys, but will feel like you are noone and reached nothing in life. Life without satisfaction. Life for another person.
Many people consider living for the one you love a feat, others find it ridiculous.
Personally, one half of me would feel happy beeing a woman, a wife and a mother. But another half would say: You are dead. (So pitty, you don't hear this.)
I am lost.
What would you do? What do you think about love and career? Yes, maybe give-and-take could be found... like... you choose a dot on a map to start up a new life with a new-family business... But everything is not always so easy.
On the whole, I came up with such sad thoughts after brainstorming with A. about what would happen if we marry :)
And imagine I lived in my fluffy pink dreams... because the idea I will maybe have to give something up for love came as a shock for me.
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Imagine you are noone but loved.
Автор Elizaveta Senatorova на 4:21 AM
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The more a person follows their own personal dreams the more alive this person becomes. The more alive a person is the more attractive it becomes. The more attractive and magnetic this person becomes the more love doors are open to he/she.
Follow your dreams become more alive and love will handle itself.
First of all, I think that the questions u raise in ur
blog are highly hypothetical. U state it urself: these
quastions raised in ur head after u discussed with ur
friend what wud happen if u married. Furthermore, the
blockspot itself is conducive to hypothetical thinking
and sharing.
Then in ur post u create this hypothetical virtual
situation in which it is either love or career, where
there are no shades of colours, there are two
situations, like in stupid american movies there are
"the good guys" and "the bad guys". Also, for me,
there is a little contradiction between the heading
and the content - "loved" in the heading and the idea
of giving love in the body of the post.
For me, and i can allude from ur post that 4 u too,
both functions in life are very important. My idea
about professional life is to take the potential
within oneself, to combine it with hard work and to
lay it open outside bravely in order to live in
harmony with urself. There is no sence in keeping it
in, like it is bad when one keeps in anger or anything
that has to go out. At the same time, I believe that
one has to find a partner in life whom they truly
love, for the person itself, just to love that person.
not to love that person because the person loves u or
not.:p I just love my cat for what she and i truly
care for her and try to support her. A good husband or
wife shud support the other half in the same way.
That's why i dont agree much with the heading, because
u can be LOVED by so many people, but u will find few
people with whom u will have harmony and mutual love.
My idea for life is that i will develop professionally
in the field I choose to with no any whatsovever fears
what wud a hypothetical wife of mine say about my
career, choice of place to live, etc. I just know that
just as I try to find the best professional solution
for me, if I find my half and we feel mutual love and
care, we will find the way to both develop
professionally and i dont bother myself with the
hypothetical question u've asked urself.
At the end u say that u've realized u may have to do
compromises for love and it's good to realize
that(yey, u r improving:p!) but in no way shud u give
up ur dreams, and IN NO WAY AT ALL at this age.
I dont know if u just ponder on that questions, but if
it is sth more than just pondering, stop it, it's
useless to think theoretically. In a concrete
situation u will feel how far the compromise can go
because u have enough brains. then the shades come -
maybe u will find somebody who u will love very much
but he will want u to live in a place where u can open
an art gallery and not become a singer?etc. having in
mind i said NOTHING fundamental in here, i stop it
right now:p
Someone said to me: "Do whatever you want to do". That's exactly your position. Don't focus on the one you barely know, focus on yourself, be yourself and go your own way. Find out who you really are (something I should do, too) and don't bother to much about love (What is 'love', anyway?). The real one will show up, it only might take a while but since you're young you have nothing to worry about.
One disclaimer: Don't rely too much one the one who is lost, which is probably me.
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